i‘ll be your friend when you have graduated with all your credits.
and by friend, i mean, your facebook friend. if you’re not annoying. and if you don’t overshare.
that’s why i tell my kids when they ask why we’re not friends. it comes up more than you’d think. i get really close to my kids. they have crappy home lives for the most part. they get attached to their teachers because we are a constant in their lives. it’s one of the things that i love about my particular school.
but i still have to draw a line. i’m their teacher. i need to maintain a division between being an adult in their lives and caring about them. that’s difficult sometimes but completely necessary and important.
now that i’m in my 7th year and i run into kids that i had in my early years it is different with them. we do have a different relationship. it’s not like we’re on equal footing, but it’s more balanced. we can have fresh and different conversations as adults. that’s how it should be. i look forward to the days that i can have those conversations with them about how the decisions they made when they were younger turned out, how they have changed, and what they have left to do.