yesterday, jennifer aniston wrote an honest and open article for huffington post. i read it twice through, and it was refreshing and comforting like a fresh cup of coffee in the morning. and then the world debated what she said. hotly debated her opinions on motherhood and relationships.
honestly, i don’t get why there’s a debate. she’s been hassled for years about getting married/getting pregnant, both of which are very personal decisions. i don’t understand why people care that much. in the end, she’s just a person like the rest of us. she just happens to have annoying strangers watching and criticizing her every move all day every day. sounds like a nightmare to me. if i had paparazzi following me, they’d be bored as hell, first of all. but then i’d go off just like she did. no one deserves that kind of scrutiny. but this is just a random tangent…
the point of the article was that she was sick and tired of people telling her what to do with her life & her body. she acknowledged that she was getting older and her body was changing. women don’t like to admit it, but she put it all out there. she also challenged the media to stop defining her by such narrow standards as wife and mother. because that’s not what life is all about for women these days. they’re important, don’t get me wrong. and eventually, i’d like to call myself one, the other or hopefully both someday. but women can and are more than that. they’re people fully capable of choosing what they want to do with their lives or as she put it ‘determining our own “happily ever after”‘.
We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. -Jennifer Aniston
it’s important for women to express these views and ideas, not just for women in their 30s and 40s and 50s like jen aniston, but also to young girls and women in their 20s. they need to know that it’s okay to not settle ever, and that it’s okay to go after what they want because it’s their choice. they get to decide what’s best for them whether that’s getting married young, choosing not to have children, never getting married at all, adopting kids…whatever they want, they should get.