this is luca.
he passed away last june. it’s hard to believe it’s been almost a year. but it has. i think about him every day. he was so special to me that it’s hard to explain. and i knew on the very day that he passed on that i wanted to do something to honor him. something that would stick around for awhile. something special. i had him cremated. now, you might think this is weird on its own. but i had an idea. i wanted to plant something for him… and with him. but it took me a long time to get to that point, to take the step. but yesterday was the day.
it started off as a normal day off. i slept in. when i woke up, i had some coffee and went for a run. then when i got home, i went out to check my mail. when i turned around on the sidewalk, i noticed my neighbor (who i had just passed) laying face down on the concrete. it took me a minute for my brain to register what was happening. but then the adrenaline kicked in and i ran to her. she was unconscious. the mailman stopped her van and stayed with her while i ran in to get my phone and call 911. the mailman stayed until i got off the phone with 911 and my neighbor woke up. then i stayed with her until the firetruck and ambulance showed up and took her away. as i watched them ask adele (i learned her name from her mail as i sat not the ground with her as we wiped blood off her face and arms) what year it was. she didn’t know. she laughed at the emt and said, “that’s a silly question!”. when the emt asked again, she admitted she didn’t know. later, they got her onto the gurney and the firefighters washed the blood off of my sidewalk. and i realized that i was meant to be there for her. it was the early afternoon. no one else was around as they were at work. but i had the day off and i was walking to the mailbox at a weird time because she needed me.
(i learned a few hours later from her son-in-law that she broke her elbow and nose and had a brain bruise from hitting her forehead on the concete. she also didn’t remember anything until a bunch of handsome men surrounded her – the firemen! haha! she’s my kind of gal.)
after i called my mama and calmed down, i made the decision that today was the day. today was the day that i honored luca. i wasn’t going to put it off any longer. so i went to a local garden center and talked to a veteran who clearly knew much more about plants than i did (which wasn’t hard because i have a black thumb). but he walked me through it and told me everything i needed to do. so i did it.