several months ago, i found a podcast called “my favorite murder”. it’s a comedy podcast during which two cohosts share the stories of interesting murders. like i said, it’s a comedy podcast. be warned: this one is not for everyone. but for me, it is a perfect match. it makes me comfortable to talk about something that is not always a comfortable topic. like a lot of women, i have been fascinated/terrified by true crime for almost all of my life. i can’t tell you why. i just am. but this recent article explains it pretty well.
when i found MFM, i found a home because the corresponding Facebook group is pretty amazing. people share their hometown stories, updated articles and theories on past crimes, and macabre (and often funny) stories to distract us from how terrible the actual crimes are. i often find myself perusing the feed as a welcome distraction.
so i thought – why not share some of my favorite stories or even expand on stories shared on MFM? i can’t commit to sharing every monday; i still want to share music sometimes. but i have a lot of interests, and i want to share some true crime every once in awhile. maybe this is just for me to work through the stories and scenarios. either way, it’ll be fun to write. i won’t share too much of the story, but i’ll provide a link to the murderpedia page.
so the first big crime story that i remember catching my attention was of course, charles manson. it wasn’t necessarily the tate and la bianca murders that fascinated me. he wasn’t really even involved in them. at least not directly. it was the phychological control he had over people. if you look at his background, you can understand why he turned out the way he did. he had a horrible childhood wrecked by neglect and abuse. he had an even worse time in juvenile hall and later jail, where he was abused, controlled, and sexually assaulted. i can’t help but feel a little sorry for him. he is a sociopath for sure. but maybe he would have turned out differently if he had been given a chance to.
so as an adult, charlie vowed to never be controlled again, to flip the script. and he made this come true by whatever means necessary. he knew what he wanted and did what he thought he needed to do to get it. if he didn’t get what he wanted, he would lash out. he wanted money, fame, and women. but he only really got one of them, and that was only through coercion.
it’s strange to think that some of the women remained loyal to him for so long. what made them do it? many of them suffered abuse themselves. but some didn’t. there’s no pattern. so what makes a woman fall into the trap and allow themselves to be manipulated by another person? so much so that they will commit murder, robbery, or assault? that is what is so interesting to me. and that question is still being explored. i work with teenagers and i can often predict which ones “aren’t going to make it”. it’s not that they haven’t been given opportunities. but sometimes it’s already too late and they’re too vulnerable. some of them can pull out of it. but some just can’t seem to escape the grasp of their bad childhoods, genetics, and circumstances.
so…nature or nurture? i say both. charlie and his girls are a great example of the worst case scenario.
as always, stay sexy and don’t get murdered.